Fake it till you make it is an interesting concept that encourages the act of imitating your dream lifestyle or goal, even when you are yet to bring it to realization.
Before I go into the full story, may I ask if you have ever faked it to make it before? Take a minute break, before you read further.
Welcome to the 21st century where people flaunt their wealth, success, and achievements on various social networking platforms. They appear perfect and most times the process or means of their success remains untold, process seems to be a thing that doesn’t matter anymore. The end as they say is more important than the means, therefore Depression, suicide, peer pressure, e.t.c. are some of the factors we have to deal with daily. Many people feel pressured to succeed and meet up certain demands that are being made compulsory, well the term “Fake it Till You make it” seems to be a means to escape being victims of some of the factors mentioned above.
Some people believe it is a therapy that works in helping them become the best version of themselves. But then, the question is “FITYMI” really a therapy? We’ll find out shortly.Fake it till you make it: Part 1
What does “Fake It till You Make it” mean?
The term “Fake it till You make it” is simply a display of what You want until you become it. In some cases, it can mean, pretending to be something you’re not, in hopes of fitting in. It can be faking happiness or confidence until you’ve reached or attained it.
For clearer understanding, it is basically acting like something you long for, wish to be like but in reality, you are not yet in that exact position you claim. You are rather still in the process. You only have that belief system that you would become that which your dream self one day.
Faking it till You make it has worked for some. So much it has put a lovely smile on many people’s faces, it has also painted some peoples red. To everything they say has an advantage also has a disadvantage.
ADVANTAGES OF “FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT”
It opens doors of opportunities for some people
This may sound crazy, but that doesn’t make it untrue. Many people are presently in their dream job or with their dream partner simply because they know how to fake it. You make say it is because they know how to manoeuvre the whole thing to work in their favour. Well, my simplest terms to it are, they know how to fake to be whoever or whatever they aspire to be in other to get results. And through that, it has amazingly opened many doors of opportunity for them.
It prepares You for what You want to become
Well, applying this theory “Fake it Till You make it” has a way of preparing You for what You want to become, you will find out that you are already acting like the “you” you envisioned. There is a popular saying that says “The best preparation for tomorrow is the right use of Today”.
So, say if You start faking your desired or dream self now before You get there, by the time the opportunity comes, you will discover that you’re already prepared and would not have a hard time adjusting to Your new status or position.
It saves You from Depression and Pressure
Speaking with some people who have actually “Faked It” to achieve something. One common reason most of them give is that faking it helps them minimize pressures from their friends. It saves them from being bullied, humiliated, assaulted or denied some certain right. Well, depression and peer pressure seem to be the least of their problems. They aren’t pressured to do some things they don’t want to do and are not depressed cause in their mind “They have arrived”. Meaning they have all the money, qualities and are already living their dream.
It makes You Famous and well Respected
To be sincere “Faking It” actually makes one famous, at least while it lasts. It makes people respect you and gives you access to special privileges, like meeting influential people. If fortune smiles on you and you utilize these opportunities well, it can actually be a stepping stone into your dream goal. Therefore, if the fame and those opportunities the comes with “Faking It” is well managed, your dreams are close to becoming a reality.
It boosts Your self-confidence and can be a source of motivation
“Faking It” can actually help boost your self-confidence and keeps you motivated. Instead of focusing on things you don’t have, you’ll find yourself paying more attention to what you have at your disposal and making the best use of it. It has a way of keeping you going even when you know you don’t have the finances, skill, character e.t.c. It keeps you on track and motivated. You can work smarter believing that things will get better and will fall into place until you achieve your dream.
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Disadvantages Of “FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT”.
Can’t keep up with the fake Lifestyle
This is sad but most times people who “Fake It” have to tell lies or spend a huge sum of money just to keep up with the lifestyle, so they don’t appear as liars or insincere people. They run into debt most times because they have to borrow money and are embarrassed. This is not a pleasant situation to be in at all.
Your Helpers may evade you
Because they pretend to be who they are not, a lot of opportunities pass them because people assume they have it all and don’t need help. The people who are “Faking It” can’t say they need help because they would have to finish what they started. Most times they would watch opportunities walk away before their very eyes and will not be able to do anything about it. They might laugh on the outside but within they are hurt as they watch other people who are more sincere grab the offer.
Destroy Your Public Image
Due to their lack of sincerity and inability to defend their supposed status, people won’t trust them when the whole truth finally spills out. They say a Good name is better than Riches. Their reputation will be tarnished and many will miss opportunities since no one would want to work with someone who is not trustworthy.
- Not finding Your real self
As a result of “Faking it” some people will not come to realize who they truly are. They can pretend to be someone else and won’t focus on the abilities that God has deposited in them. They won’t pay attention to “Process” which is one of the most important things in a person’s life. Process trims break and prepare a person for their dream or destiny. Along the process, you develop some skills, characters, and values that are very important in defining who you are. As a result of skipping all this and going ahead to borrow money and “Fake” some other things about their background and themselves, they will lack some skills that are important in going through life, which oftentimes leads to regret and frustration.
Approval from people
Most people who live fake life end up spending and building their lives based on what people think about them. This is a red flag cause you’re opening yourself up to depression and criticism. People will surely criticize you and are never satisfied with how you live your life. And You could end up bringing much harm to yourself to please people and keep up with the lifestyle.
“Fake it till You Make It” if applied well would do more good than harm to Your life. There are two sides to it, the positive and negative side. Use the positive side to Your advantage like using it as a source of motivation and keeping yourself on track with Your goal is awesome. Don’t use it as means to show off and change certain things about yourself like your family. That is unacceptable. Some people go as far as using it to oppress others, that’s a capitalized NO. What if you have a change of plan and things turn out better, then people who You’ve already told you something else ask you. They won’t be pleased to find out that you lied to them, and this sure doesn’t look good. And come to think of it, the pain of having to lie about everything is not palatable.
Sometimes it’s okay to be down, anxious, not to have it all figured out, or to be embarrassed as a result of being sincere. Those moments give you the strength to move on with life. Learn to follow the process. It will equip you with the skills you need to go through life. Feel free to comment and share your viewpoints.
- Jennifer is a blogger and life coach,who loves travelling, photography and nature. She is a philanthropist who is passionate about helping people grow and wants to be an inspiration for their growth.