8 Ways to Overcome Insecurity and Build a Strong Self-esteem

by Priscilla Ajayi

You are who you are and I am who I am! Refusal to believe in this simple fact is the genesis of every insecurity. It is the lack of confidence in oneself and the inability to face that you’re different from the next person. To overcome insecurity is to accept this fact and keep it in the fold of your palms.

Whether you’re at the early or late stage of insecurity, there is a way to stop being insecure. The crux of this is, are you ready to build your self-esteem? If your answer is yes, then read on!

Overcoming Insecurity as a Nigerian

We live in a world where people from diverse backgrounds are raised differently. It is unfair and unjust to expect people to behave the same way or react to situations the same way. Some people are proud and some are humble; some are generous and some are mean, some are brave enough to face every challenge and some feel shy and incapable. What matters is who you choose to be.

Insecurity has a lot of disadvantages; more than you can ever imagine. It limits the way you learn and gives people a nasty impression of you. So, say no to being disadvantaged and find below 8 ways to get rid of insecurity.

8 Tips to Stop Being Insecure

  1. Control Your Thoughts

The first step you should take to overcome insecurity is to control your thoughts. When a part of your brain tells you that you can’t achieve a particular goal, endeavor to counter the thoughts instantly that you can do it. You’ve got the power over your mind, so don’t allow anyone to talk you out of it.

Always ring it to your hearing that the bravest ones in this world aren’t deities. They are humans like you are, which means you can also be brave like them or even more.

  1. Keep Good Company

Keeping poor company, they say, corrupts good manners. If you gang up with friends that suffer from an inferiority complex, it’s only a matter of time before your confidence level reduces or you become wholly like them. However, moving with friends, mentors, or people with high self-esteem can positively help you. Thus, keeping good company is one of the fastest ways to overcome insecurity.

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  1. Embrace the Awkward

When other ways of getting rid of insecurity fail you, try embracing the awkward! Awkward in this case refers to what most people would consider cliche and sappy. So, how do you go about this?

First, love yourself. Once you love yourself, it’ll be easy to accept your strengths and flaws. The next step is to encourage yourself. Don’t give in to discouragements or frustrations. Finally, support yourself. All these are ways you can embrace the awkward. When you do these, you build strong confidence in yourself and eventually you stop being insecure.

  1. Prioritize your Goals

Following this order, discover, analyze, plan, and execute; can go a long way in helping you overcome insecurity. One prominent characteristic of a person who feels insecure is the lack of a goal/ambition. Or the presence of a goal with low-level priority.

The obvious reason most people fail to achieve their goals is that they don’t prioritize them. Here are some tips that can help with that:

  • Identify your goals by considering some factors like your dreams, interests, and strengths
  • Analyze the goals and arrange them in order of priorities
  • Plan on which techniques to adopt in executing your goal
  • Focus on executing your plan at a steady pace

Read also: Tips on how to chase your dreams

  1. Affirm the Value

Being insecure can be a primary obstacle to your life’s progress. Make it a habit to remind yourself each day as you wake, that your dreams are valid, your goals are achievable, and that you matter. The basic principle here is to say the words into reality.

The stronger your words of affirmation and the frequency of affirmation will go a long way to help you overcome insecurity and build indomitable self-esteem.

  1. Get Hold of Your Feelings

In any situation you find yourself in, try to get a hold of your feelings. Inability to control your emotions at a strategic time can bring down your self-esteem.

For instance, you met your ex-boyfriend at Shoprite, it’s normal for some unpleasant emotions to fight their way to the surface. Regardless of what the story is between the two of you, you should be able to acknowledge or rightfully ignore him without causing a scene.

Reacting maturely under pressure or unpleasant circumstances gives you a sense of control and an undeniable feeling of self-respect. If there’s anything that can overcome insecurity so deeply and effectively, it’s self-respect.

  1. Overcome Your Fears

Most people who can’t confidently face a crowd are victims of insecurity. There are so many other real and existing phobias that greatly impact the lives of people. It might be xenophobia (fear of strangers), glossophobia (fear of talking in public), or enochlophobia (fear of crowds).

If you can make an active effort to overcome these fears either by reading books or attending enlightening seminars, the transformation will be remarkable.

Read also: Books to read for self-improvement

  1. Prepare for the Worst

A quote by Maya Angelou read thus, “Hoping for the best, prepared for the worst, and unsurprised by anything in between”. Always consider that anything can happen and any situation can change at any moment. With this attitude, you won’t have any problem adjusting when things don’t go as expected and you’d have no reason to blame yourself for such misfortunes.

Read also: How to value yourself

The long and short of this piece is to provide ways for you to overcome insecurity. The above itemized 9 ways can indeed help you go a long way in fighting insecurity. So, what’s it going to be?

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Priscilla Ajayi
Priscilla Ajayi is a pharmacist-in-view and an avid writer with interests in health, lifestyle, career, relationships, technology, and self-development topics.

As an adventurer, Priscilla is always taking bold moves towards expanding her niche in writing, learning new skills, and achieving her set goals.

In her downtime, Priscilla can be spotted reading novels, listening to music, singing, writing poems, or sketching images.

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