Getting your crush to like you can be a needle-in-the-stack kind of situation, connecting with them can be even more difficult. It gets harder when you look at it this way; you have a crush on someone, it gets so bad that you feel like your soul has been rigged by them, but on the other hand, they probably do not even know you exist or have a glimpse of how much you are into them.
How do you get that one person from a legion of people notice you? How do you find out if they are also into you? The solutions to your questions and anxieties are a few lines away. You are just about to find that needle in the stack.
5 ways to get your crush to like you
Find a connection
The thought of what impression your crush would have of you can make you nervous, especially if you two have not had serious conversations in the past. If there’s one thing you should do with your crush, it is to embrace every opportunity of having a conversation with them.
Be friendly and kind. While being friendly may get your crush to notice you, they may not want to be close to you if you are rude, cruel, or cold. Please do not be shy about starting a conversation with them. Ask them about themselves. People love to talk about themselves, giving them that chance about things they like to do. Find out what activities your crush like, identify the interests that match your own, and spend more of your time together on those activities.
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It is important that you be your true self, not just with your crush but in general. Be confident of the things you like and the things you don’t like. Be proud of who you are, and don’t be intimidated by what you’re not. Don’t shy away from who you are; you’re unique and amazing as you are.
Be able to keep conversations with your crush flowing; you can ask questions or say something about yourself to give the chat a boost. Try not to act nervous; it is not abnormal to be nervous but try not to act it no matter how nervous you are around them.
Make eye contact with them, do not fidget, and don’t look down. This will make your crush feel like you are interested in the things they have to say and that you are paying attention to them. It will also make you seem less nervous.
Have a great sense of humour
Find out more about their interests and talk to them about them; you can check out their social media to know more about their interests. Make an effort to listen when your crush has something to say. Be positive and smile, give signs that you listen to what he or she is saying, don’t be distracted by others, or avert your eyes due to shyness. When you pay attention to what your crush is saying, you’ll be able to know what the person is like. Give comments that show them you are interested in them, such as asking for details about what they are talking about or requesting clarification if some things seem confusing.
Compliment them sincerely and not just to complement them. Say something nice to them, like their Instagram pics, tell them you love their hair, say how cool you think their shirt is, or even offer to share some cookies. Make jokes and laugh at their jokes, laugh with them and not at them. This will make your crush feel special and also consider you a good person.
Please do not talk about your exes when having a conversation with your crush; there is no bigger turn off than hearing the person you are in to talk about their exes. Don’t over-analyze. Your crush is likely to be someone you know but aren’t close friends with yet, so don’t conclude their action; understand that your crush may not intentionally ignore you. They may not notice you as much as you expect until you have a few one-on-one interactions. It takes time to develop a new friendship or relationship, and your crush will not notice you overnight.
Look your best
Look good, feel good is a general saying that has proven to be true. Work hard to take care of your body, be presentable, have clean hair, and dress well. This does not mean you have to get dressed up every day, but someone is more likely to notice you and want to talk to you if you have a nice appearance. You don’t need to spend too much money on hairstyling, makeup, and fancy clothes, but the appearance is healthy. Some make-up and maybe mild perfume are best. As for guys, avoid looking tacky, make sure to wear clean outfits, and a little cologne would be a great idea. Remember, dressing well makes you feel better and more confident. Avoid wearing provocative dresses; however, you may be sending the wrong message to your crush and other people.
Always say hi by simply waving or just saying hi when your crush comes around; this way, they’ll notice how great you look and may get more interest in you.
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It is super hard to pick up signals that someone is trying to send when you are not looking, so be clear when trying to flirt with your crush. Make it almost impossible for them not to notice that you’re into them. Be flirtatious by complementing them without doing it directly. This can be done by telling them what you like about them or through a note.
One way of flirting you should surely consider is the use of body language. Make eye contact when talking with them. Smile and laugh when they say something funny. Playfully make body contact during a conversation. Touch their hand when you get a chance, put your hand on their shoulder, give a hug if he or she seems worried. You can put your head on his or her shoulder if you sit next to your crush on a long trip. You can do these if the opportunity arises and it feels natural but try not to overthink it or be awkward about it. See how your crush responds to your body language; non-verbal cues are a good way to understand what someone is thinking but not saying.
Make it obvious to your crush that you are single, not by telling them when you weren’t asked but by dropping hints right in front of them. You can do that by hanging out with your group of friends or by going to events without somebody. Sometimes the reason your crush hasn’t asked you out yet is because they do not know you’re available.
Hang out in places they go a lot. If you know they spend a lot of time at a particular park, mall, library, or café, try to make that place your new hangout but do not follow them around if you don’t want to become a stalker.
Give your crush some space. Don’t center all your free time around your crush and try to avoid coming off clingy. Your crush may notice you more when you are not around. Let them miss you a little. Showing that you are independent can make you more attractive. Try to live in the present and don’t think too much about the future.
Communicate your intentions directly:
Lastly, make it obvious that you like them without saying, “I like you” directly, and you definitely should ask your crush out! No one can read your thoughts, so the best way to make your intentions clear is to ask them out. You don’t know they may like you back, and communicating that you like them may help them open up.
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In conclusion, you can get your crush to notice and like you. Be yourself while you communicate to connect with your crush. Be bold and confident, but not rude or aggressive. Act nice to your crush. Be available when they need you, but don’t be a stalker; no one wants a stalker for a partner. Always dress as nicely as you can but be careful, so you don’t go overboard with it; you might just be sending a wrong signal unknowingly.
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